We’re so in the habit of controlling each other/being controlled that we’ve forgotten how to think for ourselves. We’re so overwhelmed by the challenges we face that we assume there’s nothing we can do (and it’s all our fault). And we assume that controlling each other is necessary and failing was inevitable because humans are just basically bad.
Let’s re-examine these habits and assumptions.
I’ve been searching for a better name for the category of blog posts that I’ve been calling “Thinking Differently.” I’m leaning towards choosing “Empowered Thinking.”
Paying attention to the kinds of thinking we choose to engage in is critical to our quality of life as individuals, and to how we handle our collective challenges.
In his foreword to the book Come of Age: The Case for Elderhood in a Time of Trouble, Charles Eisenstein writes that,
Cultures older than our own widely recognised that words carried a magical, regenerative power. They were not mere [symbols] connected through arbitrary social convention to the real world of things. Words were emanations of land and life, partaking intimately in the beingness of the things, processes, and qualities they signified. To name a thing was to invoke it.”
~ Charles Eisenstein (bold emphasis is mine)
These two words, “empowered thinking”—or any words we chose to use and especially if we use them repeatedly, with strong emotion or intention, or with ritual—are not just words. Words and thoughts name and shape our world, and choosing them carefully, deliberately, is one of our responsibilities as stewards of our world.
Are you authorized?
Here are some synonyms (alternative words with a similar meaning) for the word “empowered”:
In our culture (the dominant culture on earth today), words like these mean you have permission. You’re allowed to be somewhere and/or to do something.
The implication is that without authorization or permission, you should not do anything or go anywhere.
From the first time we hear, “No. Don’t touch that. Be careful,” we’re surrounded by rules. And we’re surrounded by authorities (authorized people) who will use whatever sort of forcei is necessary to make sure we obey the rules.
Long before we reach adulthood, most of us reach the conclusion that we’re not authorized for anything. We also come to assume that whatever has gone wrong or is about to go wrong is probably our fault.
Vested with the power of creation
Here are some more synonyms for “empowered:”
- vested (vested can also mean “entrusted”)
- endowed (endowed can also mean “capable”)
Is it rare that you feel vested, entrusted, endowed, enabled, inspired?
Me too. And I bet pretty much every adult you or I will meet today would say the same thing. But look at the child in the picture. She knows she’s fully capable, and she hasn’t been told too often, yet, that she’s wrong.
To be inspired is to be “aroused, animated, or imbued with the spirit to do something, by or as if by supernatural or divine influence.ii”
In our culture, “supernatural” doesn’t exist outside of fairy tales. “Divine influence” probably doesn’t exist either, but if it does then it’s mostly about being judged for your sins and found to be unworthy.
A culture of domination and hierarchy
Ours is a culture of domination and hierarchy. It is not a culture of equals, but of people who have authority and superiority over people (and all other life-forms) who do not.
If we want the world to be any other way than it is, we must dismantle this sub-structure of violence – and doing so is first and foremost an internal processiii.
I chose the word “empowered” partly because learning to think about things in an empowered way (as opposed to the habitual ways our culture encourages) makes a huge difference to the quality of your life and to your capacity to serve whatever is important to you.
I also chose the word “empowered” because I want to invite you to consider the idea that you are capable of being imbued with divinity and vested with the power of creation. That is not something that’s reserved only for preachers and presidents. (Or toddlers.)
So those are some of the reasons I chose “empowered.” Next, let’s talk about the word “thinking.”
Deliberate and intentional
Among others, my computer gives these synonyms for thinking:
To me, “intelligent and discerning” does not mean you went to a fancy college, you know lots of long words, you have letters after your name, or you wear a particular uniform. It means you’re thinking about things deliberately and intentionally.
You’re not just endlessly replaying habitual, unexamined thoughts chosen for you by your family of origin, your peers, authorities, social media, and the dominant culture. Instead, you’re paying close attention to what is going on in your head.
You have a limited amount of mental space and it’s up to you to choose what to fill it up with. Here’s a quote I like that sums it up: “You are a victim of your conditioning until you become a master of your thinking.iv”
And as well as choosing what thoughts to entertain, I think its also important to practice being able to choose not to think, so that sometimes we can just be. In just being, we become much better conduits for the kinds of intelligence and power that are unavailable to us when our minds are running like a rodent on a hamster wheel.
The capacity to self-examine and to self-determine
As adults we have a potential capacity to self-examine and to self-determine.
I said “potential” because it’s not a given. It’s not handed to us along with the right to drink alcohol and to vote. We have to actively develop it, and doing so takes conscious effort. It’s especially challenging in our culture because we have so few adults who demonstrate it. It’s up to us.
This is one of the most important ways to employ our thinking. It literally makes the difference between living a self-directed lifev—a life you consciously choose for yourself, in which you are empowered and you have an important contribution to make—or a life in which nothing you can do will make a difference.
If you persist with cultivating the habit of powerful thinking, over time you will develop personal sovereignty – you will become the sovereign power in your own life.
There is a power cycle that has been in place on this planet for eons. It is a power-over others, power-under others dynamic. Personal Sovereignty is our hall pass out of the power cycle. When we believe in our own Sovereignty, we disengage [from] the wheel of oppressor and oppressed, of victim and perpetrator.”
Reya Born, “What Is Personal Sovereignty and How Do I Get Me Some of That?” (bold emphasis is mine).
Individual sovereignty is a given for members of egalitarian societiesvi. Children in non-domination cultures have no trouble taking up space, they know that they and their contributions are valued, and no-one is telling them to be careful, stand in line, and obey arbitrary rules. Their elders set examples for them, guide them, and provide them with a framework which helps them grow into effective human beings, but they do not use force to control themvii.
But individual sovereignty is a foreign concept in our own culture which for hundreds or thousands of years has been based on domination, suppression, extraction, and industry. (Schools, to pluck out just one example, were designed to produce compliant factory workers, not independent thinkersviii.)
Let us begin, here and now
We’re in a bit of a mess, it’s true. But we can do something about it, and we must, because there is no “them” to do it for us. We must stop seeing ourselves as the cause of the problem, and become the solution.
So let’s not stand about wringing our hands and blaming ourselves or pointing the finger. Let us instead begin, here and now and in every moment that we remember to do so, by developing our own personal sovereignty.
(Let us also refuse to impose our will unnecessarily on others, so that others in our sphere of influence get more opportunities to practice their own personal sovereignty.)
This is the work that will dismantle the domination structures that are at the root of exploitation.
i Force takes many forms, some obvious and some less so. We’re so accustomed to seeing, using, and experiencing force in almost all interactions that we consider it normal. In some relationships, particularly that between parent and child, we tolerate levels of force that in other cultures is considered to be anything from crude and ineffective, to disturbing or shocking.
iii Nonviolent Communication is the title of a book written by Marshal B Rosenberg and also the name of an approach to communication based on principles of nonviolence. It’s an excellent resource for anyone wanting to become more aware of the ways our habits of thought and communication maintain domination and violence even when we do not mean to.
vi Egalitarianism emphasizes equality regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status, or political beliefs.
viii For a short read, see “Factory Outlet.” For a deeper dive, see the work and books of John Taylor Gatto (especially Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling and The Underground History of American Education), John Holt, and Daniel Quinn as starting points to explore this further.