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How the narcissism of small differences is holding back community transformation work

and what we can do about it

As any group grows past “Dunbar’s Number,” conflicts will arise. Every species has a built in “flocking instinct,” a maximum group size before the group splits.  For humans, it’s somewhere around 300. We’re just hardwired that way. This probably evolved so a single species population wouldn’t over-burden its local ecosystem.

And it’s often small differences between us that we hang those conflicts on. These small differences probably help us differentiate our village and tribe and build ingroup identity when a group grows past Dunbar’s Number and the flock divides.

Sigmund Freud called this “the narcissism of small differences.” He noted that the fiercest fighting doesn’t happen between people with big differences, but between those with relatively insignificant differences. The Romans used this bit of human nature in their “divide and conquer” strategy, turning locals against themselves and their neighbours for easy plunder, and colonialists and corporations have been doing the same ever since, wherever opposition springs up.

We may discover Permaculture and think “finally! This is my tribe!” But soon we learn more, and with millions of Permaculturists world wide, there are bound to be differences among us.

What’s more disappointing is that we say “cooperation over competition,” but sometimes we seem to spend more time attacking imperfect allies over insignificant differences than we do attacking global corporations, consumer culture, and industrial agriculture that are actually destroying the planet.

Beyer-Monsanto over there wrecking EVERYTHING like Godzilla and we’re eviscerating each other over exactly how relatively beneficial an herb spiral is. Just the way Monsanto wants it.

And of course this gets in the way of any kind of real cooperative environment.

 

So, what can we do about this? Here are some of my thoughts.

1. It’s natural and okay to be part of a subgroup (like Transformative Adventures on Facebook) but can we also see ourselves as part of a broader “alternative global nation?” Believe me, there are people in the movement I disagree with (Hah!) but I have to admit, their imperfect Permaculture is still better than the poisons and petrol way.

2. Can we build our identity off of what’s POSITIVE, what we are FOR, instead of a harsh critique of small differences? I’ve been trying to focus my differences on what I am FOR, like “relocalising the movement for relocalisation, decentralising the movement for decentralisation, and bringing solidarity economics back to the movement of solidarity economics” rather than attacking other people I think are “doing it wrong.”

3. Can we focus on ourselves instead of controlling others? So, there are folks doing permaculture in ways I disagree with. I can recognise that what they are doing is still spreading Permaculture and building a market for it rapidly. Now, my most empowered role is to find what I want to contribute.

4. Can we actually think cooperatively? Focusing on “correcting” the people “doing it wrong” gets in the way of any opportunity for cooperation. Thinking of my own role puts me in the power seat, and positions me as a potential cooperator to those people, instead of an enemy.

5. Can we recognise and transcend internalised capitalism and the “scarcity mindset” that drives it? A lot of my own anxiety over small differences comes from just plain old capitalist competition thinking. “If one of those competitors pull someone in, then they won’t be a market for what I’m trying to support.” Scarcity mindset. If someone is doing “permaculture” they won’t be interested in “indigenous food systems,”or “regenerative Agriculture.” If we transcend that, we can move towards a position of cooperation. In reality, someone who takes a PDC is probably more likely to then become interested in local knowledge, Regenerative Ag, or indigenous systems.

6. Can we try to transcend differences? As John Michael Grear used to say, the opposite of a bad idea isn’t a good idea. It’s another bad idea. Usually we get to the good idea by transcending the false choice. For example, we’ve talked about how a lot of conflicts arise between positions of “reason” vs “intuition.” The best answer isn’t either one. It’s not good to abandon science, or the things that give life its richness and meaning. The best answer is to use reason where it works best, and intuition where it works best.

7. Can we focus more on the SUBSTANTIAL DIFFERENCES rather than insignificant small ones? Think of generations of American poor whites in poverty living in similar conditions to African Americans, but focused on skin colour, a biologically insignificant issue, instead of cooperating against the systems of oppression and poverty they have in common. I’ve been trying to ask myself “is this a bigger issue than climate change, global wealth inequality, and mass extinctions? If not, I’ll try to word my critique in terms of what I am FOR, rather than a harsh attack on what I’m against.

8. And finally, I try to remember to catch and store energy, including social capital. That means both for myself, and for the Permaculture movement as a whole. Even if not everyone is doing it perfectly, the Permaculture movement and its related allies are all moving us in a positive direction. Rather than bombing the movement because I think a few are doing it imperfectly, can we cooperate in moving it in a better direction?

Which will it be
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Michael Hoag

Michael Hoag has had an adventurous 20+ year career in the army of community-scale change-makers who are transforming the world. He manages Lillie House Permaculture, an urban homestead and community Transformation business, and directs TransformativeAdventures.org, a coop for supporting others building careers in community-level change. He has forged a rewarding professional path on his own terms as a teacher, Permaculture designer, homesteader, gardener, farmer, plantsman, herbalist, forager, artist, organiser, farmers’ market manager, workforce trainer, and collegiate curriculum designer. He’s an avid natural gardener, plant and ecology geek, food-lover, musician, and bum-philosopher in love with all the exciting opportunities this beautiful world offers.

4 Comments

  1. Well done Michael, and the timing is appropriate for permaculturists to take on your messages. For example, let’s encourage Geoff Lawton and David Holmgren, to share a stage in sentient discussion together. Perhaps the subject could be ‘the genius of Bill Mollison’, so that Bill’s vision, literature, humour and disruption can be recognised, understood and promoted to sustain the movement into eternity.

  2. And breathe! x I appreciate your opinion and this logical, and very heartfelt plea to adopting a mindset of plenty, of abundance, to increase the number of hands on deck charting their courses to a better, more sustainable planet. Our individual contributions may be quite small or legacy level, if they are made with positivity and respect, they’ll be steps in the best direction. Well witten and I’m totally on team Guardians of the Galaxy.

  3. I love your thoughts on being fair, accepting of others different from you. It isntruenwe look at petty things and enormanise it to such an extent that business partners spilt worse, kinships are broken even. So we need to identify the ‘enemy’ in whatever form it may be. How can we achieve greatness when we are distracted to fight and divide.

  4. I liked your post, here are a couple of thoughts on it.

    “4. Can we actually think cooperatively”

    For successful co-operation to happen its critical to first be realistic and recognise that others have aims, needs and values that will often conflict with your own. If they are different to yours’s are you willing to let them say what they think and respect their opinions, and of vis-versa?

    If there is no real environmental pressure forcing groups to co-operate and/or no shared values etc between the groups (or they just hate each other) then they won’t co-operate. It isn’t possible. It will fail.

    Conversely a shared goal, world view or at least the basic respect of allowing others their own opinions and a shared practical need to co-operate are much more likely to succeed.

    So it completely depends on who you wish to co-operate with. Farming communities are expert in this. Permiculturalists who are primarily if not solely interested in food security, creating a better more horticultural life, homesteading etc have the potential to be good to great at this. People who are more attracted to the aesthetic of permaculture or are more inclined to divisive woke politics for example have little to no chance at all and may well drag others down with them.

    It’s like asking will a marriage work. Obviously it depends on the type of person you marry.

    “5. Can we recognise and transcend internalised capitalism and the “scarcity mindset” that drives it?”

    Unless communism or some other totalising ideology absorbs the world then there will be more or less free markets to buy and sell your things as you wish and that means competition. You may consider it internalised or not but it will still be there. That’s just life, not a political ideology. Of course you may feel stressed when you lose business to someone else and you’re not sure that you will be able to feed your family, that’s completely normal and reasonable. In this case it’s an expression of a responsible father wanting to protect his family. Not internalised political indoctrination manifesting as “scarcity mindset”.

    You cannot “transend internalised capitalism and the scarcity mindset” because what you have written conflates the normal trading or bartering of life with to some imagined demonic political force that is controlling your very being. And it’s not, buying and selling and all that comes with it is just normal and has been since forever.

    We can transcend division by not demonising people and respecting their point of view even if we don’t agree with them. By dealing equally and fairly with people who wish to do the same by us, and rejecting the idea of attacking people on the basis of skin tone (be it white, black or anything else) or religion or political affiliation.

    Then you have a chance at not just co-operation but community.

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